The ritual of losing innocence for a fee does exist in cultures of different nations (for example, Mizuage in Japan). But this option is actively used in the 21st century.
In January, Kateryna Kryuchkova from Kharkiv sold her virginity at an auction. The news of the deal was booming not only on the Ukrainian media but also appeared in the largest tabloids of the world.
Following Kateryna, another Ukrainian woman put up an advertisement - a certain blue-eyed blonde Polisha, as she calls herself.
Is this business legal, why do Ukrainians engage in it, and what amounts do they receive?
How online bidding works
Our girls sell innocence through overseas auctions. For example, on the German site Cinderella Escorts we find profiles of Nadezhda and Mila from France, Roberta from the UK, Adele from Romania and two Annes from Russia.
The site does not specialize only in innocent girls. It gained real fame due to sex deals with celebrities. The founder of the company, 29-year-old Jan Zakobelsky, gives an interview to such media as Forbes and writes books about his difficult business.
The service receives 20% of the commission and carries out further transaction support. The starting price of such a “product” is 50 thousand euros. According to our calculations, for the money from one, even the most unsuccessful sale, Jan can live in Germany no worse than his average compatriot for half a year.
The procedure is as follows: in order to prove the seriousness of intentions, the client sends a security deposit of 10% of the amount to the administration. If the bid is interrupted, he can invest this money in another lot or get it back within a week.
If he wins, the meeting should take place no later than a month after payment at any hotel that the client chooses. The cost of accommodation and flight "buyer" takes care of. Club members can also meet with a girl in a cafe before “buying”.
The deal does not end on the sale of virginity alone. Most of the girls indicate that they are looking not only for their first man but also for a sponsor without sex (paying 10 000 euros per month) or even a husband.
It turns out that a 19-year-old Kharkiv woman, having sold innocence to a 58-year-old businessman from Munich for 1.2 million euros, became one of the most paid escort girls. Catherine’s “win” is gigantic. For this money, you can buy three dozen brand new 1-2-room apartments in the capital and be a renter for the rest of your life, or simply put finances on a deposit, receiving 4 million hryvnias (over 163 000 USD) of bonuses per year.
Successful deals for higher amounts can be counted on the fingers of one hand. The largest amount recorded at the auction of the Moonlite Bunny Ranch brothel. Natalie Dylan in 2008 earned $ 3.7 million for her virginity. Looking at the inflation rate today it is about 4.5 million.
On the same site as Kateryna, a model named Giselle earned 2.5 million euros three years ago. Romanian fashion model Alexandra Kefren was promised almost 2.3 million euros from a Hong Kong businessman. But the deal failed as soon as it turned out that the girl had a young man.
It is likely that soon such amounts will be unattainable for "saleswomen". It would seem: the average age of loss of virginity is constantly decreasing, and the “product” should seem unique. But there are more and more offers, and there is not enough demand to satisfy them.
Ukrainian Polisha placed her ad on the same site with a minimum starting price at the end of January. But the sale did not take place, despite the high-quality photos taken, apparently, on Vozdvyzhenka, in an elite micro-district in the center of Kyiv. We tried to contact the owner of the agency regarding her lot and auctions of other Ukrainians, but he did not disclose this information.
CIS is also in business
In addition to the European ones, there is the Russian site first-night.com, which serves the vastness of the CIS, as well as the United States and Great Britain. If Cinderella Escorts is blocked by some Ukrainian providers as pornographic, then its Russian counterpart easily bypasses all prohibitions.
"Saleswomen" from 18 (such is the minimum age) and up to 31 years. The amount that the girls are counting on is from 4 000 dollars and up to a million. However, even the minimum amount on this site are 10 times higher the price tag for virginity in Mexico.
The Russian site is literally “teeming” with Ukrainians who want to quickly get a decent amount. As of February 24, we find 54 vacancies of innocent Ukrainians. 35 girls from the capital, six from Kharkiv, four from Odesa, three from Zaporizhya and Lviv, two from Mykolaiv and one from Vinnytsia. Some indicate that they are ready to travel throughout Europe, others mention that they can only be found in Ukraine.
If you register, you can see uncensored photos of girls. They, as well as photocopies of the documents, are verified. Theoretically, putting someone else’s photos is prohibited, but 90% of Ukrainian ads show off the words “documents and photos are not confirmed”.
Buyers leave their proposals, not only men but also women. For example, a 36-year-old woman resident of Los Angeles wants to build a romantic relationship with an innocent girl, and at the same time support her with money. There are also messages from those who cannot pay, but “will impress”. But the overwhelming majority does not want to stop at a meeting alone.
The existence of such a platform was ignored by most of the media. This may indicate that the site is a fake. There is no evidence that transactions really happened through it.
The same ads, but in a veiled form, are found on dating sites and in social networks. But we don’t find communities on buying virginity either on Facebook or on VKontakte. Most likely, they are blocked by site administrations.
Tinder is also not too interested in such deals. 23-year-old Alena’s ad on selling virginity received extremely active reaction but conversations did not go further than talks on the money. Moreover, a couple of days after registration, the profile was blocked due to user complaints.
Into the heads of “sellers” and “buyers”
“The theme of the sale of innocence is very controversial, since it is officially condemned in society, and unofficially under certain conditions, is traditional (when a woman is offered to“ save herself ”for marriage with a rich man who will provide for her, and thus actually buy her),” - says psychologist Olga Golubitska.
In the ads, it is customary to indicate the reason for such a transaction in English. Many make mistakes. For example, Russian Anna calls Europe a country.
Someone wants to help sick parents and pay for an apartment. The Azerbaijani model, for example, sold virginity to a Japanese politician in order to buy a house for her mother and open a shelter for dogs. But most often, a girl selling innocence is a student who does not have enough money for a good life. She wants to travel to America and Asia, a foreign education, home and her own beauty salon.
“I want to sell my virginity because I feel like a bird in a cage. I want to feel free and get all the happiness of this life. With this money, I would like to finish my studies abroad and buy my dream home by the sea,” says Ukrainian Polisha.
“My mother did everything for me, and now it's her turn to be proud of me. I believe that my first man will be a smart and decent person and will understand me,” Anna writes.
All these girls consider virginity an absolute relic of the past and are not tormented by remorse. Psychologists also explain the phenomenon of "internal mental disorder." It's about rationalizing everything that surrounds the girls, and about trying to succeed no matter what.
Many also argue the “sale" by the fact that the first guy will still not be the last and, most likely, will break her heart. Probably some of the girls are driven by fear of being abandoned. They are afraid of losing control of their lives. Such experiences are not uncommon. Feminists, for example, often deprive themselves of innocence, if only it was not a man.
However, for some, the act still turns out to be psychologically difficult, and they back off. One of the girls demanded that the transaction take place as quickly as possible, but in the end refused at the last moment, justifying that she wanted to draw attention to this problem. And the Russian heroine said that her friend posted an ad. Is it true or excuses - we will never know.
The owner of the Cinderella agency claims: girls with psychological problems do not participate in auctions. They are first tested by doctors. We did not find such a condition on other sites.
As for the future of these girls, some remain in such relationships. The businessman who won the auction with a Kharkiv woman further proposed to provide her financially - at 10 000 euros per month. Others begin to work in such agencies, but already as an administration, or continue to work as escort girls.
No matter how the girl relates to this, the consequences for her can be catastrophic, the psychologist believes.
“To some extent, they not only break themselves but also break the system of society, using its shadow aspects for their own benefit. However, this still transfers them to the rank of objects, not subjects of their life, which can give a traumatic effect a few years later when the saturation of material goods turns into satiety, ”says Golubitska.
If we figured out the benefits for “her,” then why might this be interesting to “him”?
Most often, businessmen, politicians, and foreigners become buyers: an anonymous politician from Russia bought a night with one of the girls for 1.8 million euros. The action of such a person can be compared with the acquisition of a painting, which will be stored only in his collection. Some buyers indicate that it is important for them to find an innocent wife, sweet and modest.
“All these actions are aimed at the desire of a man to own something exclusive, to be exclusive, the first, and in many cases the only one. We can assume in such men the phenomenon of an inferiority complex or self-doubt, especially in relation with a woman. Then, by “buying” innocence, they seem to lay the foundation for all future relationships of a woman, hoping that she will always compare any man with him and he will become a leader of her attention and desire, ”says Olga Golubitska.
Are such tenders legal? Logically, the sale of innocence is the provision of intimate services for money, which falls under the concept of prostitution. But in reality, the sale of virginity can only be punished in a fantastic scenario.
“I am inclined to believe that the human body is a human’s business. It is legally difficult to classify this as prostitution. I don’t even see what to “catch on” here, ”says Anna Malyar, lawyer-criminologist.
“Of course, this practice undermines moral foundations, but it is extremely difficult to hold accountable for it. There is no evidence of all the components of an administrative offense; fixing the event itself is extremely problematic. There will be no responsibility for posting an ad because this is only an intention. And the act itself may not take place,” says Rostislav Kravets.
In the article, we find a clarification: prostitution is not considered one-time sexual intercourse for money. Clients, as you know, even in cases of prostitution are not liable. This is the practice of almost all countries of the world, with the exception of those who apply the so-called “Swedish model”.
“You can talk about responsibility for a pimp, a mediator, and then this is quite arbitrary. If we talk about prevention, then it is almost impossible. Only contacting the police about pimping will help,” says Anna Malyar.
Pimping is punished if an organized group was created in order to obtain monetary benefits from the organization of sex services if there was blackmail, threats. For this, there is a prison sentence of one to seven years.
In this case, can site owners be held responsible if they receive a percentage of the girls' profit? Lawyers disagree. Anna Malyar assumes that there will be no liability. And Rostislav Kravets emphasizes that the difference between the site with photoshoots of models and the site for placing such ads is very subtle. It is unlikely that it will be possible to prosecute the owners of sites with free ads. If the site directly talks about such services, then its owners, hypothetically, can be held accountable for pimping or even for human trafficking, the expert said.
All three sites offer a 100% guarantee in the legitimate conduct of the transaction. The terms of the Cinderella auction indicated that the meeting was being held in Germany “for legal reasons.” Apparently, the owner of the agency decided to protect himself. In addition to Germany, prostitution is also legalized in the Netherlands, Austria, Switzerland, Greece, Turkey, and even in neighboring Hungary and Latvia. If we talk about the Moonlite Bunny Ranch, then the brothel is located in the US state of Nevada, where prostitution is legalized.
But there are more questions regarding the activities of the Russian site. Theoretically, it can at least be blocked. But for this, you first need to write a statement to the police. But whether an appropriate decision will be made is unknown. Judging by the bases of court decisions, in Ukraine, in the history of independence, not a single site that provides such services has been blocked.
And we don’t find data on courts for the trade-in innocence either. There were similar proceedings in Russia, but cases fell under human trafficking. For example, a 35-year-old woman tried to sell the virginity of her 13-year-old daughter for 23 000 dollars, and a 22-year-old Russian woman - the virginity of a 15-year-old foreign girl for 10 000 dollars.
Interestingly, a girl can still be held responsible if she deceives customers and systematically pretends to be innocent. Then what is happening can no longer be called a one-time deal.
The fines for prostitution in our country are ridiculous. According to article 303 of the Criminal Code of Ukraine, they amount to 85-255 hryvnia (3 – 10 USD). This is a penny in comparison with the proceeds that the girl will receive for the first night of her life. Worse for her is the possibility of receiving community service works as a penalty and the fact that information about her past can be found in the public domain.
“Serial” virginity and other deceptions
If you have 13 000 -18 000 hryvnias (530 -734 USD), innocence can be returned literally during a lunch break. Bed rest and two weeks without sports, hygiene 5 times a day and postoperative pains - that’s what girls do for the profits.
There are two different operations. In the short one, the appearance of virginity is created for about two weeks. There is also a long hymenoplasty, which results in lasts before the intimate moment (it is possible no earlier than in a month). You are admitted to both only after passing a full examination (in the clinic it costs another 2 500 hryvnias). For surgery under local anesthesia, you need to take about 7 blood tests and check the heart and lungs.
Even age will not be a hindrance. We called one of the clinics that deal with hymenoplasty and introduced ourselves as 40-year-old Tamara, who wants to resort to the service at the whim of her husband. The doctor said that he had already dealt with women older than 30. According to him, if necessary, the procedure can be repeated. One of his clients was registered in the clinic for the third time. But abuse of such a practice, he said, will fail - it will be physically impossible.
The doctor assured us that the operation is simple, and the man will not notice the difference. Unless, of course, he is a doctor. A doctor from an agency can come to a meeting if the client separately pays about 100 000 euros. Therefore, a liar can deceive a client from the social network.
Some do not bother with operations, but simply imitate the first experience. And there are those who do not have to do this either. Money is sent to fraudsters for tickets, and they disappear without a trace.
There are also cases when “fake” agencies receive girls’ intimate photos and then blackmail them. We find such reviews on the Internet on the site first-night.agency (the name is similar to the Russian site described above, but the domain is different). Such sites are teeming with positive reviews, but leaving your own on them is impossible.
Also, a girl can be deceived by a client if they make an appointment without an agency. It is not surprising that the sites even have special sections with tips on how not to fall for the scammers. Former virgins are advised to preliminarily see clients and refuse the transaction, if he does not communicate properly, do not publish naked photos and check that a hotel that has been booked.
In addition, even a confidentiality agreement does not protect against the fact that the girl’s personal data can be found. Although the Kharkiv millionaire deleted accounts from all social networks, she forgot about VKontakte and was quickly declassified.
We do not give you advice, except for the simplest and most obvious - not to participate in such auctions. In addition to the moral and ethical side of the issue, the security issue is acute. Appreciate your health and your life - you have the only one.